Men sometimes watch erotic films like these
MILF blowjob videos with their partners to spice up sex or to find an alternative to their lack of sexual desire. Some even film their own lovemaking.
However, some women are unable to see a pair of breasts or a kiss on screen: we can't ask them to watch these films. For others, we can suggest organizing a session together with their man. In cases where the woman is not used to watching such films, I ask the man to let her make the choice, otherwise some scenes may shock her and dampen her enthusiasm... which is not the intended goal.
A woman who watches this type of film must have a good body image, otherwise, she risks comparing herself to actresses and aggravating her insecurities.
The "Good" Erotic-Pornographic Film
Even today, due to relative ignorance, many men and women may miss out on entertainment and enrichment for their sex lives. In fact, they imagine that the way they make love is necessarily the same as everyone else's. In this area, a lack of knowledge and imagination is common. Hence the interest in educational sexology films.
As long as they describe or show "normal" erotic acts, performed by "normal" and consenting adults, these films also have didactic and therapeutic value, offering role models. As for shy people, pornography allows them to lose their inhibitions by showing gestures and postures that they forbid themselves for moral reasons.
One of the minor benefits of pornography is to better understand oneself sexually and to become aware of one's partner's interests. If one gets excited by what the other dislikes and it persists, we may not be meant to get along.
The Benefits of Pornography
If these are "good" educational films, any boy or girl could see them as early as 13 or 14 years old, either with images of masturbation (unfortunately, in sex education classes, solitary pleasure is not discussed, yet it is often their only sexuality) or showing a couple actually making love, in a loving way. This way, a young girl can see what a real orgasm is. Indeed, those who have never experienced one often have a hard time imagining it.
Some psychologists have argued that the imposed, omnipresent image of pornography will impoverish the consumer's imagination. In my daily practice, I find, on the contrary, that for the majority of men and women, these images enrich their sex lives, giving them certain ideas about positions, fantasies, etc. Sex education lasts a lifetime!
Pornographic films create a particular atmosphere conducive to prolonged erotic play. Some women attribute these images to a liberating effect in terms of sexual inhibitions and grant them a positive role in their romantic lives. If pornography is so often rejected by women, it is not, in their opinion, because of sincere disgust, but rather because of the prohibitions that weigh on gender.
The Perverse Effects of Pornography
In some films, the images depict naked, open, idealized women, thirsty for sex, nymphomaniacs, submissive, accepting all their partner's fantasies without complaint. Sexually immature men take these images for reality and believe that all women are endowed with the same urges and fantasies. So, he doesn't understand why the woman he shares his life with isn't like the one in the movies.
What Should We Say to the Adolescent?
The guardians of morality (for moralistic and religious reasons) are always there to protect young people from the sight of sex (and not violent films). They insist that pornography is dangerous for young people and constitutes an attack on women's dignity.
Despite the anti-porn filters that parents try to install, many children aged 9 or 10 have already seen these films on the internet. Coercion has no effect. The only possible way to overcome this difficult discovery of sexual images is to accompany them with words. It would therefore be useful to explain the two dimensions of eroticism and pornography in schools, to make them understand the difference between sexuality as an object and sexuality as a relation. Pedagogy of the implicit is essential to counter the temptation of the explicit.